Name: Donnell Hicks
Title: A Family That Prays Together Stays Together
Families, whether big or small, are truly dynamic in all aspects - particularly within African-American families who have been a force to reckon with forever. Despite the fact that we were sold into slavery during the slavery area, African-American families stood strong, steadfast, and most of all united through tough times and the good times. Even following slavery, black families have been the cornerstone in American history. The seven facets that make black families unified are:
- Traditional Sunday Soul food Dinners: African-American families started a tradition that would last for generations upon generations. That tradition would be called “Sunday Dinner.” The ritual dates all the way back to slavery days when black families would come together after church services to bond and eat over some delicious soul food dinner with “Big Mama” sitting at the head of the table. It is one time everyone in the family can come together as one to catch up on life.
3. Another way black families can be unified as one is by showing love to each other all year round bonding over barbeque cookouts over the weekends or just calling up each other on the phone to say “I love you.”
4. Holiday gatherings are another way families can stay together and be unified. There’s not one single holiday like Thanksgiving, Easter, and Christmas. African-American families can come together in peace to enjoy each other company.
5. Family members can also support one another in special occasions such as sports, high school and graduation ceremonies, artistic crafts-writing a book, music, designing clothes, or painting. Family members giving their undying support to each other is another way an African-American family can stay strong and united.
6. Coming together on one accord when a loved one is deceased or down on his/her luck is also a way the bond in African-American families can be strengthened. When a loved one is gone onto glory, it is up to the rest of the family members to stand in valor by leaning on each other instead of outsiders.
Somehow over the last two decades, some African-American families have separated. What I mean by that, everyone has grew up, had children of their own and went their own way in life. Since some of the matriarchs and patriarchs within black families who kept their families intact have become deceased, the family unit has become marred with arguments, jealousy, less affection, less support, more hate, less communication, and less phone calls of “I love you.”
And in some family units, you have that one family member believing he or she is bigger and better than the next; he or she is on an ego trip. African-American families aren’t the same anymore like how when “Big Mama” or “Granddad” kept the families together by showcasing unity. Families should and always stand with one another. For that reason alone, a family that prays together stays together.