Writer’s Name: S.F. Hardy
Title: A Real Man is Not Seen, A Real Man Is Felt
“How does a ‘real man’ look?” one lady asked another? “Short, light and ugly… tall, dark and handsome is not working for me,” the other lady answered, laughing. Momma did not lie when she said, “Never judge a book by its cover, for you will most likely be fooled.”
Society has been duped into believing image is everything. Yup, just like the old pager message used to say when paging someone. While what meets the eye is somewhat representative of a person, it should not be relied on as being the total package of any individual.
A “real man” does not have a look. A real man has a feel, and not just in touch. A “real man’s” physical traits as well as his possessions will vary from man to man. However, “a real man” is determined by his actions and his dealings with others.
A real man is without flaws but realizes his mistakes and does what is within his power to correct them.
A real man is confident and does not feel it necessary to bring others down in order to lift himself up.
A real man is not afraid to speak up for what he believes is right. He is an activist in his cause.
A real man is not afraid to show emotion because he does not subscribe to society’s philosophy of “men” not crying.
A real man will find a way to support himself financially, without brining harm or pain in the direction of his family.
A real man understands the importance of being a positive presence in the lives of his children as well as children in his community.
A real man is forever seeking knowledge.
A real man shares and encourages sharing.
A real man will cook and clean for himself and not rely on a woman to do it for him.
A real man will not hit a woman or anyone he knows he can hurt.
A real man helps those he sees in distress.
A real man is compassionate and understanding, realizing that as humans, we all have difficulties. He tries to create solutions not obstacles.
A real man volunteers his time to enhance his community.
A real man does not let what others think of him dictate his life.
“Real men” are humans who are comprised of substance. Nice looks, fancy cars, money, social status and prestige only go so far. All of the aforementioned can be taken away at any given moment, but a person’s character will remain.
Every man has the potential to ascribe to and represent the traits and actions that make a man real. However, he has to have the desire to do so, which means the African American community has to step up collectively and promote the look of real men and admonish the negative stereotypes that constantly encourage negative behavior, resulting in heavily affected communities. We have to demand better and when it is given, accept it and not downplay it.
A real man varies in his look and is felt by his touch,
a real man will carry himself as such.
A real man does not have to say what he does or what he has,
his realness will shine through as he takes care of his business.
A real man will go out of his way
to make the world a better place.
A real man exudes strength of the mind
and holds the power in his hands,
Can you tell me where I can find this real man?