Writer’s Name: Tyeisha Downer
Title: Forever is a very long time
Enough is Enough. I didn’t sign up for this. Every time I turn around there is another problem staring me dead in the face and I can’t take this anymore. I love you; this is true. But since we got married it’s been hell. Anywhere from allowing your family and friends to take money from our home to you not bringing enough income home. You don’t even take me out or tell me you love me anymore. I’m tired of crying every night over problems that could have easily been avoided. So Angela it’s over just like that. What happened to our vows, “for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health?”
Stephan I will tell you what happened to those vows. You look for divorce papers in the mail. I’m not going on with it. The sound of a door slamming echoed in the air and Stephan’s life flashed before his eyes.
Has anyone ever had this happen to them? So many individuals go through this every single day and the easiest alternative is divorce. How soon do we forget the importance of our wedding vows? On our big day when the actual wedding was taking place many of us became overwhelmed with the warmness that took over our heart at that very moment. As we gazed into our significant others eyes we believed that they can do no wrong; it never dawned on us that all marriages face obstacles. People fall in and out of love all of the time but true love never dies. The more that you go through makes you stronger. You become unbreakable.
Life is never perfect and we all step on shattered glass barefooted at some point in our lives, but it is important to mend our wounds and keep going. Being able to communicate is key in making any marriage or relationship work. If you don’t communicate then the other person has no clue what’s going on which makes the problem unable to get resolved. Remember that anything worth having is worth fighting for. Nothing that is worth anything comes easily. Sometimes it’s necessary to take a trip back down memory lane and every now and again you should take the time to re-live the events that made you fall in love and want to get married in the first place. Through every rainstorm, sunshine will soon follow.
Sometimes we have to go back to the basics of courtship and romantic walks in the parks and candle lit dinners. Do you remember the cat and mouse game? When you chased after whatever it was you wanted and there was no stopping until you got what you were chasing? What happens after the chase? Do you just forget about everything? Many of us fail to realize that we stop doing those simple things once life throws curve balls in our direction causing us to lose our focus and neglect those that are precious to us. Take the time to fall in love again and get back to the basics. Don’t give up. Strive for the best and remember that marriage is never declared perfect; it takes hard work, patience, determination, unconditional love and a little bit of hope, and most importantly it takes faith.
Marriage is a sacred bond between two individuals that understand what commitment stands for. Together they understand that marriage is a union and not an excuse to give a fancy reception, dress up nicely, and dance the night away. Instead it is a partnership that never ends. So take time to understand marriage before committing to something that you may not understand. Marriage is supposed to be forever and forever is a very long time.