Writer’s Name: Ornitha Danielle
Title: What the Bible Says about Marriage
People often overlook the “for better or worse” when they get into marriage. When individuals decide to take that vow of marriage, they’re agreeing that no matter what will come or happen they will remain together. Today nobody wants to go through the storms of life. Sometimes people think everything is going to be a bed of roses. Now honestly, when the newness of the wedding bliss wears off, reality sets in. The picture becomes clear; all the moods, feelings, money, education, jobs and family start to creep up into the marriage. As an African American married woman, I’ve been with my spouse 20 years. I can say that the vision of life, the ambitions of what I thought were going to happen, the so-called fairytale wedding are all things I didn’t even have a clue about at that age. Marrying so young at 19 years old I had no CLUE! I grew up very fast. It wasn’t about me anymore. The things that can lead to divorce are many. Here is a small list and I’m sure it can go on and on.
1. Not having trust and honesty in the marriage
2. No communication
3. Lack of finances, lack of jobs or work
4. No spiritual life with God
5. Lack of Education
7. Opposing aspects of child raising
8. Where to live or not live
10. Parents, caring for your parents
If we would look at the bible and what it tells us about being married or marriage, many wouldn’t enter into it. Marriage takes a great deal of work, time and commitment on both parts. There is even a part in the Bible in 2 Corinthians 6:14 that talks about being unequally yoked. The Bible tells us flat out what we should and shouldn’t do. So many times we want what we want regardless of the cost. We have this need to want to please the flesh.
Marriage can be a very beautiful thing if both individuals work to make it that. It’s just like a flower, if it is given the proper love, shine and water, it will grow. A lack of these things will cause it to wither, dry up and die. Love takes time to develop. There is something I found out about the ring and why it is placed on the left hand and the finger it’s on. That finger is connected to your heart and the rings are a symbolic union between man, wife and God! We are not supposed to be alone. God has given us instructions on our lives in that great Book the Holy Bible. This is what the word Bible means to me: B= Basic I= Instructions B= Before L=leaving, E= Earth. We should also be wise in all of our doing. Marriage isn’t to be taken lightly. Without the correct guidance, we will run into trouble. We should seek God in all things, not just marriage, but in everything we do.